Updated: Aug 2, 2020
Let's be honest, most of us are not good at loving ourselves, even saying it out loud sounds a bit icky. SO when I ask you, "what does loving yourself look like"? I am very often met with polite smiles and silence.
What I suggest, teach and coach is that we should love ourselves every bit as much as we love a close friend.
That sounds impossible? Indulgent? Like a waste of time?
You are worried your family and friends would think you had lost the plot?
The way I teach self-care is simple, easy to follow, intuitive and practical.
And if you are reading this it must mean you are at least mildly interested in the subject of self-care. Self-care means different things to many people but I will tell you want it looks like to ME.
TAKING TIME TO REST, RECHARGE, CREATE & JUST BE ME.
FORGIVING MYSELF FOR MY MISTAKES.
SETTING & MAINTAINING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.
SAYING "NO" TO OTHERS AND "YES" TO MYSELF.
MINDFUL OBSERVANCE OF MY THOUGHTS.
KEEPING PROMISES I HAVE MADE TO MYSELF.
NOT ALLOWING SOMEONE TO DISTURB THE INNER PEACE I HAVE CULTIVATED.
BEING OK WITH THE FACT THAT I HAVE FLAWS.
EMBRACING MY LIVED EXPERIENCE WITH LOVING-KINDNESS.
ACCEPTING THAT I HAVE AS MUCH RIGHT TO HAPPINESS, CALM AND PEACE AS ANYONE ELSE.
FOLLOWING MY INTUITION, I AM THE EXPERT ABOUT MYSELF.
WRITING MYSELF A "YOU GOT THIS", LETTER WHEN I AM FEELING PANICKY, LONELY AND UNSURE.
HAVING A LIST OF GO-TO SELF CARE ROUTINES & IDEAS THAT WORK FOR ME.
ACCEPT THAT I AM 100% RESPONSIBLE FOR MY OWN HAPPINESS.
This is the basic list of ways I care for myself and the list I work with when I teach and coach clients to better care for themselves.
Without self-care we are more likely to suffer from:
DISSATISFACTION WITH LIFE
ADDICTIVE BEHAVIOURS, ALCOHOLISM, DRUG DEPENDENCY.
HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE
If you would like to learn how to better care for yourself so you can lead the life you deserve and desire, please get in touch.
I would be so happy to hear from you.
Take good care,
Sara Copley, MA. IMCPP